This special day, “Mother’s Day” can be a time of grief and mourning as well as a time of celebration. Grief can take many forms – for those among us who have lost their mothers as well as for those who don’t feel mothered or nurtured by their mothers who are still alive.
To acknowledge ALL about that special unique relationship between oneself and one’s mother – the good, the bad, the indescribable and complexity of thoughts, feelings, history… that is the challenge especially when a false sweetness can prevail in our culture. Perhaps we who have lost our mothers may want to honor a cherished memory that arises. It may be a moment that expresses the gratitude we feel towards that person or a memory that represents the essence of that person and even reflect the ambiguous nature of that complex relationship.
This Mother’s Day can also be a time to acknowledge what we received from those other mothering figures who may not have been our birth mothers but their nurturing and care may have had far greater impact then our own.
So, Mother YOurself on Mother’s
Day! Be kind and true to your feelings whatever they are … To all the motherless inner children who may have deep longing for mothers.. to all the adults in us having the wisdom to see things exactly as they are …I send you blessings to celebrate or mourn or just Be with what is TRUE for you.
Marlena Kushner, MFT
Women’s Therapy Services